Fatherlessness

September 20, 2013


Lately God's been taking me through a lot of different kinds of new experiences. This year (so far) has been a real roller coaster ride of emotions. But I am thankful that through it all, God's giving me never ending wisdom and unfathomable understanding, strength, peace, joy... Basically He sustains me (and my family) is so many ways.

The wisdom though... wow! I'm receiving so many thoughts and many are deep. It's blessing me. Slowly my future is becoming much more clear, and God's is telling me where I'm heading far more surely now. Still a wee bit fuzzy, gotta pray on it more, but I have faith. Dream BIG! Pray even BIGGER!

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So, anyway... I don't know why, but I had the sudden urge to join the Sunday service in Lembah Pujian few days ago. So we did, and turns out Ps. Myles Munroe is speaking for the day. And whoo~ he was slaying me with the words of God!

I'd like to share what I got through the preaching. His preaching is really big, wide and deep... Now, you must understand that I am not very good with words and summarizing things, so I'll try my very best to deliver his preaching through this post.


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Family is the first human institution on earth. Family existed before government, before church, before schools. Family is God's ideal institution. We must understand the power of fathers and the power of family. Family is the cure of ALL social problems. But nowadays, all over the world families are under attack. Family is the prototype of society; society is only as strong as the family.

Purpose of family:

  • Socialization
  • Civilization
  • Preservation
  • Identification
  • Procreation
  • Classification
  • Incubation
  • Accomodation
  • Liberation
  • Transformation

Products of family:

  • Responsibility
  • Accountability
  • Respectability
  • Morality
  • Communicability
  • Values
  • Emotional shelter / Stability
  • A psychological incubator
  • Self concept / worth
  • Convictions / belief

Now, just like a building or a house, the most important of part of the building is the foundation. Similar to that, the most important of a family is the foundation, which the male. Now, if you would like to know what is important to God... study carefully what satan focuses on! The devil knows to create problem they need to create: fatherlessness.

What's with the male crisis? Well, priority determines value. The male is the priority for destruction to the devil because of HIS value. Fathers are in crisis because they are the important key.

A tree is only as good as its root. A house is only as good as its foundation. The quality of an offspring is determined by its genes.

We all believe Jesus is the best contractor. All contractors know that the most important to concentrate from a building is its foundation. So, before God built family, he created human being. He created Adam. God only made 1 human from soil and He never came back. God never begins until He is finish! God put everybody (the whole entire human race) inside this 1 human - Adam.

Can you picture that? So God created and finish everybody (YES, EVERYBODY) first and then put it in 1 body. So Adam: is everybody in 1 body.

Look now, the first human God created is a male. This is important! Because he is going to be the foundation. A foundation of a building is located at the bottom of the building. Why? Because it carries the weight of the whole building. The male is suppose to carry the whole family. The male is the foundation of a family.


"The LORD God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it. And the LORD God commanded the man, saying, "You may surely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat, for in the day you eat of it you shall surely die."
Genesis 2:15-17


God then took the male and put him in Garden of Eden. Eden has a meaning of "Presence". It means: beautiful presence. So it is NOT a place, it is an environment. An atmosphere. God's presence. This is why no matter how hard archeologists try to find the Garden of Eden, they were never able to discover it.

God put male in the Garden of Eden to work! So first, God put him in His presence, then He told male to work it. Adam also has to cultivate and protect the garden. And not only that, God also gave His command to Adam not to eat the fruit of the tree of knowledge. God gave the man His words.

Notice now, God put in 5 items in Adam.

5 Items that are the marks of a real man:
  • His belief - is he in the presence of God?
  • He is working
  • He cultivates you - helps you grow into a better person
  • He is able to protect you
  • He is obeying God's commandment


"Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.""
Genesis 2:18


Only after Adam had those 5 items, then God decided to create woman. So, here is a kingdom advice for the ladies: Next time a man tell you that you're beautiful, he loves you and he want to marry you. Asks him these questions: Are you in God's presence? Are you working? Can you help me grow to be better? Can you protect me? Are you obeying God's words? If the answer to those questions are no, then girl... don't settle.

Then God goes inside the man and He takes out a woman. Woman didn't come from the soil like Adam did; they came out of the man. 

Father: Abba (in Hebrew); meaning - the source. Sustainer, source, nourisher, provider, protector, progenitor, founder, author, maker.

Woman came out of the man, so the man is the source. This is why the male is called father. Father is not a name; it is a function. So, in other words, the woman is the man's baby. A baby should be taken care of; God designed woman to be sustained by man. Man should protect, clothe, feed, love, forgive and even spend all your money on her. 

Can you draw the line now? Man > woman > marriage > family > community

Man is created first; the foundation. Then woman was created. Marriage is third; the union of man and woman. Then fourth; the fruit of marriage - Family. Then many families produce community. Many communities produce a nation.

So who is the most important part of the structure? THE MAN. Man was built by God to carry a whole nation! The devil knows that if it can destroy the foundation, then the whole nation could collapse. 


"...So when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was a delight to the eyes, and that the tree was to be desired to make one wise, she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened..."
Genesis 3:6-7


Notice that when Eve looked at the tree, nothing happened. When she picked the fruit, nothing happened. When she ate the fruit, nothing happened. She swallowed it, still nothing happened. But when Adam ate it, immediately everything collapses.

This is when man fell and was removed from the whole structure. And woman carries the nation. But woman wasn't designed or built for that. Which is why there are a lot of woman is sick, stressing out, etc nowadays.

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To all man: attain those 5 things and made yourself whole. Realize that you've got a nation as your responsibility. Stop being so small minded, and grow! Prepare yourself not only for the present, but for the future. There is no such thing as, boy will always be boys. Make the decision to grow into maturity, and be ready to lead your spouse, family, community and contribute to the nation. Remember equip yourself then a woman will be brought to you!

To all woman: A thought from my latest reflection - "To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of biblical advice: "Ruth patiently waited for her mate, Boaz."

While you are waiting for YOUR Boaz, don't settle for any of his relatives; Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheatin-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Lazy-az, and especially his third cousin, Beatinyo-az!!!

Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yo-az!" ;-)

Always make sure the man you're settling with has those 5 things!!!

To both man & woman: I am going to quote what I read through Kak Diah's blog - "A marriage is a long term relationship between two individuals. A wedding, on the other hand, is the ceremony of getting married." So, surrender your relationships to God and make sure to enter holy matrimony with His grace.


P.S: I hope I wrote Ps. Myles Munroe's preaching well enough for you all to understand. This sermon has greatly blessed me, and set a very clear path for me for the future... I hope it will bless you as much as well!

xo, Chrisya S.

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